i know she think that i just think she some kind of ho... i don't give a shit bout give in it up on the first night... that just lettin me know... she know what she want outta life... what a hell a way to god damn wake up,... oh that shit was good oh maybe... she'd get me some breakfast she so goddamn sweet, sweet as she wanna be... oh i just oh i wanna lay in her hair... you can't fall for it, don't fall for it Ice Cold (ice cold!!!) maybe i just roll over and lay on her booty yeah nah no no no , just lay and be cool be cool (ice cold!!) but what if she, what if she, what if she, what if she's the one........
-Andre 3000 (via 'Speakerbox/The Love Below')
Everytime I hear that, I think if guys really think that...is it okay to sleep with a guy on the first date? Seriously, since times are changing, does this mean first date etiquette should change as well? The things that our parents or grandparents did in the past are different from the things we're doing in the present. Many of us have our guidelines on what to do and what not to do on a first date...some of them are typical, while others may seem stupid.
I was brought up by a woman who instilled in me certain notions of how to act around a man, specifically dating etiquette and how to conduct myself as a lady. Now I must admit, I haven't always followed her rules, yet I have been successful most of the time. Now I've asked my male friends this question many times, and I get the same answer every time. The question is, if a woman puts out (i.e. have sex) or have intimacy actions, does this mean she is a "ho" and easy? They all said no. Now I'm thinking, they're probably just saying that, but in the back of their mind their probably thinking something else. Let's be honest, once you get the goods early, why else is there a reason to stay? To get to know her better...you already know her very well, so move on, right? Maybe I'm looking too into it...maybe. Men, is this true? Ladies, would you put out on the first date or would you look down upon a woman who would? Would you get offended if he makes the first move towards sex on the first date? Be honest with yourself for a moment.
So what do you think? What are your first date etiquette rules?
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hmmmm, this is a question that i hear all too often, and i know yall dont get the right answer. So when it comes to these question .. please default to me!! lol
Here is what most of you really mean by this conversation..... "once you get the goods early, why else is there a reason to stay?"
I say this, if all he wanted was sex, NOTHING!!! BUT .. if all he wanted was sex he would leave after he got it the 1st date or the 12th date ...
So i say trust your judgement! if a dude wants to get to know you, he will get to know you, if he just want the snatch, he will do what he has to do that and leave. I personally feel if you to get G'd into having sex and realize duke is a jerk and only wanted sex, that would hurt more, but to each its own.
If you like the vibe off jump and you think this might be alright, go for it, real dudes wont look down upon you if you hold yourself with a certain esteem (not arrogance)
Its all about how you carry yourself, a dude likes to feel like you like him and that you will do things with him that you wont do with others, so if you seem like a jump he will treat as such, if you seem like a young lady with a (sexual) appetite, he can respect that
*vegas international: I like your answer...a young lady with a sexual appetite (sounds familiar).
My first rule of dating: Oh yeah NONE
As long as I'm having a good time and so is he then that's that, Ive gone on to a million dates where no nothing popped off, and to many others where we just got our shit to go and ate after the sex and after my feetsies were rubbed
Futhermore I've been to that first date where you do every horrible thing your momma told you not to do even in married and we didn't get out the house til the weekend to replace the sheets and went on to have 2 years relationship
And the guys that talk all that antiquated shit about putting out makes you a ho are pretty hypocritical cause, um, if they put out themselves and/or slept with said ho... what does that make THEM?
But then again I don't play by any old rule
*qucifer: Yea, I'm like that too, but it's those old rules that keep popping in my head. Whatever goes, goes.
Me and a male friend had this conversation the other day. He says if she gives it up within the first couple times of hanging out...then he won't take her seriously.
Personally, I believe times are changing...I didn't think it matters as much...if you and him have talk I mean really talked before you let him get it, I think it's ok.
Almost, every relationship I've been in we've got it on the first night and they've always respected me and never thought i was a ho..
Since none of the relationships have never really lasted, Imma try the old fashion way(well kinda old fashion lol) this time.
*kurlyque: LOL, yea try the old fashioned way and let me know how it works b/c I'm lost on what to do.
Kurly - Ya boy is bizerk!!
As an attractive young man with a head on your shoulder and something to offer anywoman, you are obligagted to respect her if she gives it up quick, because you are supposed to be that appealing, and you can forgive her if she waits on maybe two night (because you are a gentleman)
Im not waiting 5/6/7 times to get intimate, and not its not a matter of me thinking you are "not worth it" its quite the opposite, you are either trying to milk time, dinners, drinks, events out of me, or trying to convince yourself that you want me, or you are just plain fronting .. . either which way, im not sticking around to find out which one.
Real women know what they want and go for it. Dont play passive now, yall were almost president this year, yall better go get that (hopefully)good dck if you want it!!
THATS JUST MY OPINION!! LOL ;)
Yes.
Double standards? Yes.
It's the way it is.
Chivalry... the man always pays, unless there is absolutely no chemistry and you know this will be a one time thing... then you split it...
and never talk about past relationships...
and i dont think you should really put a time frame on the sex thing... I've never done it but I heard from men that they dont look at a chick any different if they are really digging her and she gave it up on the first date...
and yes I have got offended when a dude came at me on the sexual tip our first time out because that means he assumed I was easy and he wont get another date...
*mo: I feel you
*eb the celeb: Yes, he must ALWAYS pay on the first date...I think I would get upset also if he came onto me on the first date (feels weird).
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